Thursday, October 16, 2014

Groupon Starts Today


My company is running a six month long Groupon, which starts today.  I can't imagine anyone not knowing what Groupon is, but from the customer's point of view, it’s a great deal for food/services/adventures/products that you would likely not buy without said Groupon.  I know tons of people who use Groupon on a regular basis.  There was once a time where I also used Groupon or Living Social…but I haven’t been that person in a long time.

Here is Groupon from the perspective of someone who has to work it:  you get a mad rush of people, at least half of whom have not remotely read what they’re buying, so they try to get something the deal does not offer and get irritated or mad, and not uncommonly start to (I’m not exaggerating) scream or cry.  Of the people who buy the Groupon, probably about 22% are regular customers who are just excited for the deal, 8% are people who haven’t heard of us or wanted to try us and will come back without a Groupon, and 70% are people who only come in when they get a Groupon. 

Of that 70% of Groupies, 20% of people are nice and excited, 20% are quiet and seemingly uncaring about it, and 60% of the people are unreasonable monsters.  They want something other than the deal they bought, and cannot BEGIN to understand why you cannot make an exception for them!  I have been yelled at and cussed at. More times than I could begin to count I am told I am terrible at my job, a horrible human being and they were going to do their best to make sure my boss knew how worthless I am and hopefully I would get fired. I have been told that I am heartless and I have destroyed so many anniversaries/parties/dinners/etc, one would think I would make a living off of it.  The thing is, I’m truly not exaggerating.  Roughly 42% of the people that I’ve dealt with over the last 3 ½ years of Groupons make me HATE my job on so many days and are a huge contributed as to how much more of an unhappy person I am these days.

Anyone who has ever worked in the service industry knows that it can be a really hard, thankless job sometimes. People treat you as something subhuman or not even worth their notice. They can be demanding, ridiculous and just plain rude.  You can work your butt off to try to please a customer and they leave you a 10% tip because “they can’t afford to tip.”  (A quick aside: if you can’t afford to tip, you shouldn’t be eating out, but I’ll leave that rant for another day.)  Groupon is a whole other circle of Hell.  There is something about it that just brings out the worst in people. It gives them a sense of entitlement that allows them to treat people in a completely uncivilized and sometimes downright cruel manor.  It’s not just me, in case the thought was crossing your mind. I’ve talked to countless food industry people who have had to work it, and it’s just plain miserable. I have not yet run across anyone who has had to work a Groupon who has had a positive experience. Not one person.

Like I (briefly) mentioned, the other 58% of people who come in with a Groupon are just fine.  Some are actually amazing and so incredibly excited!  Often times, however, that 42% of terrible people just overshadow the good.

When I learned we would be doing yet another Groupon, I honestly started to wring up my resignation letter.  I opened Craigslist and started looking for new jobs.  The thing is that outside of Groupon, I (mostly) really like my job.  I work with great people and pretty much have complete creative control to do whatever I want. I work five minutes from my house, and my regulars are awesome.  I have an amazing set up at work, one which would be really difficult to find elsewhere, but I have had so, so many miserable experiences with Groupon that it poisons what’s good.

I had committed to starting the Positivity Project and written my first entry at Be Happy Anyway just one week before I found out about the impending Groupon.  I wasn’t sure if it was a sign that it was time for me to move on and find a new job, or if God was sending me a challenge to see if I’d put my money where my mouth was.  I don’t know that I’m really up for the challenge at this point. I would prefer it come along a few months in, when I had changed more of my habits and was better able to leave the bad days at work behind when I went home.  I do not apparently get that luxury; I’m going to just have to dive head first and hope I’m able to swim.

What’s the saying? “Hope for the best but prepare for the worst.”  How do you prepare for the worst in people while you’re trying to be less hateful, less judgmental, more understanding and more positive?  I’m going to try to go into today with an open mind and an honest smile on my face.  Maybe we won’t have our first mean person for several days, and it will be easier to keep the smile from becoming fake.  Maybe people will be more self-aware of how they’re acting and how they’re treating people over baked goods, and the 42% will become 12%.  I don’t know. 

I’ve got my Groupon playlist on my ipod blaring songs that put me in a good mood and make me want to sing and dance along. I’m taking a deep breath and sending up a few prayers for strength, patience and understanding.  I guess I’m ready to accept the challenge.  Wish me luck!

“People are often unreasonable, irrational, and self-centered.  Forgive them anyway….  If you find serenity and happiness, some may be jealous.  Be happy anyway. The good you do today, will often be forgotten.  Do good anyway.  Give the best you have, and it will never be enough.  Give your best anyway.”  

Sunday, October 12, 2014

Positivity Round Up

I'm not good at creating new habits.  I'm a fairly habitual, routine oriented person, but creating new habits tends to be fraught with missteps. I do really well for the first week or so, but then as life and old habits get in the way, the new ones fall to the side.  The idea of the Positivity Project is to create new habits in my thinking, my actions and my emotional state.  The idea of the blog is to hold myself accountable to creating those new habits.  How do I hold myself accountable to updating the blog? I've never been great with journals or the like; I find it difficult to force myself to write when I am not inspired.  I will (attempt) to do better with updating my blog, even if it means shorter posts on occasion. That will be my goal for the week! 

 

I've done a mostly decent job since my last posting at the start of the month. Overall I still have a lot of negative thoughts about events and people, but I'm doing better with small tasks. I went through my clothes and got rid of a full Trader Joe's bag of items I donwear. As most females can relate to, I had a lot of "I don't really wear this because it doesn't fit right/falls weirdly on my body/is definitely not my style/will fit once I lose some weight/is incredibly uncomfortable but I will definitely wear it one day and I want to keep it until then" clothes. My style is relatively simple - comfort before fashion 90% of the time. I have tried to expand my wardrobechoices, convincing myself in the dressing room that I will definitely wear it if I bought it. Then, when you get home and pull it out of your closet one day, you realize you talked yourself into a dumb decision. Maybe you'll wear it once or twice, but it really was not a good purchasing choice.  For some reason, it is still really hard to part with those items! I am trying to downsize in general, because I have more than I need (except for books, I always need more books), so I really forced myself to evaluate these items I don't wear. They were all perfectly nice items, with minimum wear, and I knew that someone else could use it and appreciate it more. I dropped off the bag to Good Will.  Not only am I redusing the clutter, but hoepfully someone who needs it will find it.

 

My boyfriend has been sick this past week, so I've been attempting to nurse him back to health. This may not sound like anything impressive, but he does not take to nursing very well. Mostly he just wants to be left alone in his misery, and won't take care of himself much. I stayed up more than half the first night to force him to drink tea and honey, take lozenges, and make sure he was warm enough by building and maintaining a fire. He actually went home early from work the next day, which he never does. After an extremely long and crappy day, I went to the store, sat in an hour of traffic and proceeded to make him Italian Wedding Soup with homemade turkey meatballs so he would have something good for him to eat. I'm sure it doesn't sound likemuch, but all I wanted to do was go home, crawl in bed and watch tv alone for the rest of the night.  But I love the guy, and he does a wonderful job of taking care of me when I'm sick, so I swallowed my isolationist fantasies and did my best to help him get better. He is well on his way to the mend, if you're curious. 

 

The other weekend, boyfriend and I went to my parents for dinner. It was a hectic day and I was exhausted, but I know how much my parents miss be being around every day, so we went over for a few hours and picking up dinner on the way. I need to be better about spending more time with my family. I've seen more of the boyfriend's family the last month end half than I have mine, and I live closer to mine! I love my folks and (usually) get along with them really well. knowing how much my parents love it when I visit, I need to add it to the list of things to work on. 

 

Outside of all of that, mostly I try to just be more patient and understanding of my customers - and we've had some doozy of customers this week. I'm trying to get to know my regulars even more. I go through periods where I'm really good about it, and then I get caught up in all of my stuff to do at work, and I don't have those personal connections much with them. One olderish couple always get the same two cupcakes. I've learned to recognize the husband and the bright blue car (usually she) drives.  The other day I have them their regular for free. He was so startled and pleased, and gave me the biggest thank you. His wife even came in a minute later from the car to thank us! I know it should be the reason we do it, but it is always nice to receive a big thank you when we give out free things. The same man was in the store yesterday as I was trying to leave after another hectic, stressful day, but I stuck around to talk with him. Not just chit chat, but actually talk and get to know him. It turns out, he is kind of fascinating- he lived in Italy for 6 years and was part of the Italian protest walks! It was a really positive note to end on, after a fairly negative day.

 

I will continue to try to be happy and positive every day, and will try to be better about updating too! 


Have an awesome week, reader! 

Wednesday, October 1, 2014

Boyfriend's Birthday

Tuesday was my boyfriend's birthday.  When deciding what to do for him, I was considering a lot of possibilities.  As expected, I thought of his hobbies, loves and interests.  Eventually I decide to celebrate his birthday with one of his favorite things: food.

The boy conveniently works about a mile from my job, and less than five miles from my apartment.  He gets into work incredibly early in the morning- earlier than his baker girlfriend.  Normally I work on Tuesdays, so showing up at his work with coffee & breakfast is not particularly inconvenient to me.  Naturally I would have off this Tuesday, and bringing him coffee & breakfast would mean not getting to sleep in on one of the few occasions I actually had the chance to.  My alarm went off at 5:30am, and I seriously contemplated not going in until 8, but I knew he would have eaten breakfast by then.  Knowing my objective for the day was to make him feel special and loved, and knowing he was worth being inconvenienced for, I finally got my butt out of bed around 6:30.

I picked up coffee and breakfast from Starbucks because, despite being kind of a redneck, the boy is a coffee snob. After dropping them off and wishing him a happy birthday, I went home and set up an online order for catering from Jimmy Johns.  I got a party platter of his favorite sandwiches and set it up to be delivered at lunch time.  He was very excited by the sandwiches, and even was generous enough  to share some with his coworkers.  He did manage to eat 6 of the 15 sandwiches over a 3 hour period, though (and case you're wondering, he didn't gain a pound from it either).

After work we finished out his birthday with beers and dinner at Dogfish Head Ale House.  He loves craft beer, and the food is great too, so he had a great time.

I'm incredibly lucky to be with him, and I wanted to make sure he understood how special I think he is.  Hopefully I succeeded. After all, the way to a man's heart is through his six stomachs!

Awkward Bank Encounters

We go to the bank at work several times a week to deposit cash from the sales and to get change for the register.  (Just a quick aside: we never have much money in the shop, so if you're planning on robbing us, you may want to find someplace more worth your time and effort. Thanks!)  My FOH/Service Manager normally does these transactions, but when she's out of town or off on days they need to be done, I take over.

Donnelle generally goes at the start of her shift since she usually works the PM shifts.  Since I mostly work AM shifts, I ordinary go at the end of my shift. She goes perky, bright and fresh.  I go exhausted, and often, going to the bank is like a break from work.  I'm usually quiet - even though I'm always polite and friendly. The tellers apparently remarked to Donnelle once that I was "very serious".  There's nothing wrong with that, but I figured it would be better to be more personable and try to get to know them as people - not just use it as my place for a quiet breath.

Monday I went to do some deposits, and I tried really hard to chit chat and make conversation.  The thing that I must have forgotten when I resolved to do better talking to people is that I'm awkward as hell.  I am terrible at making chit chat.  If I'm not behind the counter, bar or apron of work, there is this switch that must get turned off.  I don't know if I'm as awkward outwardly as I feel, but I certainly hope not.

I bought a book on the art of conversation a couple years ago.  I should probably read that before I attempt connecting with the bank tellers again.  Sigh.  At least I tried?